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Irreconcilable Differences

When people get married they are in love. There are those times when marriage ends in divorce, and the reason for divorce is stated 'irreconcilable differences' more often then not. I've always wondered why people marry who they believe is their soul mate, but then divorce them because they are irreconcilably different? How does that happen? I believe I have your answer.

Way back when mine and Michaels relationship started, we couldn't be more alike. We were both still a bit immature, we we're in high school, holding down part time jobs, and had just purchased our first cars. We were beginning to step out on our own. After his graduation in 03' he was supposed to go to college, he was all signed up and ready to go- then at the last minute he dropped out. We had worked at the same restaurant for some time, him a cook and me a waiter. I left the job for a better one in the beginning of his senior year, and he abruptly quit the weekend after graduation- and not for a better job. Since graduation from high school he has had about 5 or 6 different jobs, no one better then the other.

When I graduated in 04', I had already completed a semester in college as I was dual enrolled in high school and college my second semester, I was holding down a job at a prominent race team in the NASCAR Busch Series, as well as working at a local grocery store part time. I landed the full time job I have now in October of 04', and I've been working my ass off and going to college ever since.

In December of 05, Michael quit a good job nearby to take the same position for a dollar more an hour about 25 miles from here. I tried to tell him that the extra dollar every hour was worth the 50 plus miles a day he was having to drive. In January, he realized I was right and came back to his previous job. He decided to start college this summer, but has yet to complete a full week without missing a day. (I know these things. I only go to his house to visit his family when he's supposed to be in school and he's always there).

We both started a diet around the same time. I'm doing Weight Watchers and as of tonight I've lost 15.8 lbs. He claims hes lost a about 18 lbs. but unlike me, is not willing to step on a scale to prove it, his clothes are are still the same size, and I don't believe Pizza is on the plan. He's failing at something yet again.

Now it's the drugs thing. I don't smoke cigarettes and I've never touched a drug in my life. I never will. I don't let the people I hang out with impress their behaviors upon me, and you can bet your ass if they're doing drugs they certainly wouldn't be doing it in my house.

This fall I will be enrolled school full time as well as working full time. If history repeats itself, Michael will have dropped out of college and still be changing oil for $9 an hour.

This my friends, is how people grow apart and have 'Irreconcilable Differences'.

We we're great for one another in the beginning, motivated, outgoing, loving, energetic, etc. But now, we're opposites.

I'm glad I've realized the path I'm following is the one that will lead me to a better tomorrow. I just wonder when he is going to realize his path is destructive.

posted by Ashley at 8:28 PM